February 13, 2009
“The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer.” – Proverbs
Have you ever been the victim of a pat answer? You asked a serious
question, you bared your soul to someone, you acknowledged internal
pain, grief, doubt, or fear – and you got what amounted to
a flip response. No thought behind it. No effort at understanding
your situation. No consideration for what solution might fit your
“The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer.” One
of the characteristics of Christian maturity is thinking before
speaking. Listening with the heart, striving to understand the
other person to the greatest degree possible, sifting through Scripture
to find what is most appropriate to uplift and encourage, seeking
wisdom for every word spoken.
Pat answers are fast and easy. Wisdom is takes time and effort.
Which would you prefer to receive? Make sure that is what you are
- Think of a time when you were the victim of a pat
answer. How did you react (internally or openly)? Why? What kind
of response would have helped you in that situation?
of a time when you gave someone a pat answer. Why did you respond
to them in that way? Consider the situation again: if you could
go back and do it over, what would you say now?